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“People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness.  Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”

- H. Jackson Brown

 

 

I love you more today than I did yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow.

Peeps I need to catch up with! Better jot down before i forget.

Btw, I am adding a new theory (2).

1) HeatàArousalà Aggression

2) Lack of sleepà Arousalà Aggression + walking zombie + auto pilot!

Okie.. There it goes… Year 2009.

14/15 sep=Meet Laiza

??? Sep/Oct=Meet Franics (Date unknown, forgotten)

16 Sep or 15 Sep=Catch up with Marcus & gang before he fly.

26 Sep=Clarence’s birthday (I promised him I will go)

Oct 8 to 10= Status pending (…)

Oct 1 to 5= Stay Qian house, go crazy with strawberries frens.

After Oct 23=Catch up with Lydia & MISS SHERINE!****

After exam= Air port pick up.

After exams…

People I SERIOUSLY NEED TO MEET UP OR WILL GET SKIN! (In random order)

1)      Mrs Yeo A.K.A Sherine LEE!****

2)      Miss Jiang Ni

3)      Miss Ting Ting

4)      Mr Daniel

5)      Miss Wendy

6)      Mr Mark

7)      Miss Lynn

8)      Miss Kai Wei

9)      Mr Marcus

10)  Mr Matthew

11)  Mr Fred

12)  Miss Celeste

13)  Mr Dennis

14)  Miss Candy & Yemin

15)  Miss Lydia

16)  Miss Tricia Ong

17)  Mr Ker Hsien

18)  Miss Xara

19)  Mr Tern Poh

20)  Mr Dai Kuan

21)  Miss Heng Ying

22)  Mr Clarence

23)  Mr Jezz

24)  Miss Kai Wei

25)  Miss Elaine

26)  Miss Sherlyn

27)  Miss Rui Qi (She gonan kill me if I forget again)

28)  Mr Mac

29)  Catch up with Clique

30)  Willll add more… this is all the peeps I can think of for now…

Things I freaking need to do!

1)      EAT STEAMBOAT WITH JCU CLIQUE!!!!!! :@

2)      Reply Miss Lin Auntee Email!

3)      Write and airmail my letters out to Andrea, Sonja and Wayne.

4)      READ my five Morrie’s Books!

5)      Read my three motivational books!

6)      Go salvation army, donate the things.

7)      Resume counseling practice and tuition.

8)      Go diving!!! L L L L L

9)      Finish my cross stitch!

10)  Go mountain climbing with Pear (Status pending)

Am I dreaming? I can feel his smell… I can smell it. NOW! Hmmmm….

Got to share!

This is sweet. Lynn's BF went for army field trip and it so happens that his field camp fall on her birthday! *HOLY SHIT*

Yea.. I thought so too, I mean its super sad where your love, your special one is not with you to celebrate your birthday uh.

BUT nonetheless!!!

He gave her a pre birthday celebration AND a surprise!!! Its kinda sweet! I mean thoughtful!!!

When my friend Lynn got home, she was greeted with a basket/ a parcel!!! Of flowers! And a heart shape bottle with Red M and Ms. Wow gaga~ Its so exciting!!!

The secret reveals:…

Lynn says:

u know there are 10 stalks of flowers

Lynn says:

7 roses and 3 lilies

Lynn says:

so he was saying dat because he will not see me for 10 days,

Lynn says:

1 flower symbolise how much he miss and love me

Lynn says:

den for the chocolates right,

Lynn says:

i made a mistake

Lynn says:

is not all m&N chocolates

Lynn says:

consist of 4 different kinds of chocolates

Lynn says :

little skitttles:every little thing i say means sticks with him forever

Lynn says :

M&N chocolate: small memories and enjoyment we had in the past

Lynn says:

M&N crispy: every date we had

Lynn says:

M&N peanuts: great memories be forever remembered

Lynn says :

i told u the chocolates comes in red and orange only right

Lynn says:

he say red stands for love

Lynn says:

and orange stands for even when love fades, memories still stay

Lynn says:

coz when red fades become orange mahh

MY comments: HEY MATTHEW! GREAT JOB! Am so happy for lynn too!!! Of coz… our dear female lead cried.

Aww! Its so super sweet. Haha! Last but not least! HAPPY BIRTHDAY LYNN!!!

Take some time and effort for your someone special for he/she is worth everything of yours in the world. :) Nothing else matters more then your special. And surprises create sparks and bring love to a higher level, keeping it alive and strong. :D

Who don’t love surprise? Treat others like how you wish to do treated and good will all be serve upon you :)

Lynn's bliss ranking=======NUMBER 3!!!

Lynn is the third girl whom i see that is very doted and loved by her bf!!!

Oh... The world is good. :D

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.

His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down.  He discovered  it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the 1 day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that theboy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, 'You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger,  they leave a scar just like this one.  

You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say 'I'm sorry', the wound is still there.  A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

1. You can’t learn to be happier:

It wasn’t long ago that researchers believed that every human being was born with a set “happiness point,” but thankfully, the growing field of positive psychology has proven that happiness is greatly influenced by factors that you have the power to control or influence: friendships, romantic relationships, finances, careers, and mental habits, to name a few. In other words: yes, you can learn to be happier.

2. The quest for happiness is all in your mind:

Yes, happiness is an experience of the mind. But no, the quest for happiness is not 100% mental. Some people would have you believe that we should all learn to be Jedis or Zen Masters, capable of being happy with no regard for our surroundings or circumstances. I hate to burst the bubble on this philosophy, but it’s just not realistic. The real world can – and will – affect your happiness. To use an obvious example, if you had a wild dog chewing on your leg, I would humbly suggest that you’d be better off removing the dog than trying to convince yourself to be happy in spite of it. I say this not to be flippant, but to illustrate that sometimes the quickest path to happiness is addressing our internal attitudes, and sometimes it’s changing our external realities.

3. Thinking about happiness will make you unhappy:

Some people insist that thinking about happiness will make you unhappy, but it’s more accurate to say that until you take the time to consider your own happiness, the things making you unhappy may remain hidden from you, doing their work unnoticed, silently dragging you down. It’s better to bring them into the light so you can deal with them. Over time, the net effect is positive.

4. Being rich will make you happier:

Once your basic needs are met, more money does not equal more happiness. In the words of Richard Easterlin, “Few generalizations in the social sciences enjoy such wide-ranging support as that of the diminishing marginal utility of income.” While it’s true that the jump from poverty to middle-class yields a substantial happiness increase, every additional dollar from that point forward provides ever-decreasing benefit, and other factors (such as job satisfaction and relationships) become more important than ever.

5. Money doesn’t matter:

Unfortunately, some people take the “money can’t buy me happiness” mindset to illogical extremes, denying any connection between money and happiness. Oh, there is a connection, and if you’re not making enough money to afford necessities or to pay your electric bill, you’ve probably experienced the connection firsthand. Making at least a middle-class wage is a proven way to boost your happiness because it allows you to compare favorably to others and to afford the things that society considers necessary.

6. A life of leisure will make you happy:

We all have fantasies of endless vacations on sun-swept beaches, but studies have shown that a life of leisure quickly leads to boredom. The extent to which you make so much money that you never have to make any more is the extent to which you must confront the greatest challenge of all: yourself. This progression from basic needs to self-actualization is classic Maslow. And if you’re lucky enough to figure out what you want to do with all your freedom (many aren’t so lucky), you’ll probably find that you agree with Harvard Psychology Professor Tal Ben-Shahar, who says that in spite of all your freedom, you cannot be happy without work. And by work, I mean productive, fulfilling activity, not necessarily a 9 to 5 job.

7. Happiness is just a mood:

There are 2 types of happiness. Firstly, there’s the present-tense emotion of happiness, the mood. Secondly, there’s our holistic evaluation of the way our lives are going. In other words, just because you’re sad or angry right now doesn’t mean that you’re unhappy with your life in general. Many personal development techniques focus exclusively on state management – controlling your moods. And while I admit that state management is important, it’s also important to give the other type of happiness its due by focusing on activities that fill your life with meaning and purpose.

When it comes to happiness myths, this list is really only the tip of the iceberg; maybe we’ll cover the rest in a future article. But for now, let’s reflect on the way these particular myths may have propagated within each of our lives, influencing our daily choices and even our long-term aspirations.

How many of the ambitions we aspire to truly hold promise of fulfillment and happiness? If our idea of happiness is clouded by misconceptions, probably not many

I like to think of happiness as a cake. That’s right, a cake. Chocolate, Angel Food, or Black Forest Surprise, the flavor makes no difference. What matters is that our cake is made of three layers.

The 3-layer cake of happiness. Everybody wants a slice, right?

Below you will find some of the meaning of happiness stacked into 3 layers and covered with delicious icing. Enjoy.

Presentation: The Top Layer

Just as the top layer of a real cake is the part that everyone sees first, the uppermost layer of our happiness cake is the part of our personality that we present to others. It’s easy to take this layer for granted, but there is no question that the way you interact with the world can have a tremendous impact upon the way you feel. Here are 4 simple ways to make the top layer of your happiness cake as beautiful and happiness inspiring as possible:

1. Smile: If you smile, you’ll notice two things: smiles are contagious, and they actually improve your mood. People respond to smiles with friendliness and generosity, which could turn your whole day around. Smiles even work during telephone conversations, where they can be heard clear as day by whomever you’re speaking with.

2. Project Confidence: Boost the positive energy in your communications by providing additional non-verbal cues: upright posture, firm handshake, uncrossed arms, calm demeanor, and appropriate eye contact.

3. Dress the Part: Dressing near the peak of appropriateness for your surroundings has 2 important effects: people may lend you greater legitimacy and respect, and because of this, you may feel and act more empowered. Superficial or not, the effect is real.

4. Say Something Nice: Every day, life presents you with another opportunity to say something kind, generous, and genuine to somebody. Whether it’s complimenting a co-worker on his new tie or admiring someone’s accomplishment, boosting the positive energy in someone else’s life boosts it in your own too.

Attitudes: The Middle Layer

Just beneath the shiny exterior (or icing) that we present to others are the attitudes that affect the way we perceive the world. If the top layer is the part of us that we present to others, the middle layer is the part we present to ourselves. Here are some quick ways to optimize your middle layer:

5. Gratitude: Every morning, remind yourself of all the things you have to be thankful for: relationships, shelter, food, family, and whatever else makes you feel happy to be alive. Research has proven that an attitude of gratitude makes a difference.

6. Turn a Problem into a Puzzle: Sometimes a single word can make all the difference, and “problem” is one of those words. I’ve often wondered if children would take more readily to mathematics if we called them math puzzles instead of math problems: problem is such a negative, hopeless, impotent word. When a problem descends upon your life, think of it as a puzzle. Is there a way to solve this puzzle? If so, start putting the pieces together, calmly and with confidence.

7. Fill that Glass: Yes, the world is full of negative circumstances that require your attention, so don’t bury your head in the sand. But do remind yourself that there are just as many positive forces in the world as negative ones; your fixation on the negative is a matter of perspective and choice.

8. Make Negative Thoughts Count: To the extent possible, make sure the time you spend thinking unhappy thoughts is productive: planning solutions, developing serenity, or learning a valuable lesson.

9. Positive Introspection: Take time to inventory the characteristics that make you valuable: skills, attitudes, generosity, capacity to love, and so forth. Be aware of all the wonderful abilities you bring to the table. Write them down if you have to. Everyone has something valuable to contribute.

10. Positive Affirmation: I’ve never been much of an affirmation specialist, but my motto on affirmations is simple: as long as affirmations are representative of reality and are not keeping you from dealing with true problem areas, they’re good; do them if they work.

Circumstances: The Bottom Layer

In many ways, the circumstantial layer of your life is the hardest layer to change. Here, in this foundational layer, you have relationships, career, finances, family, and any other circumstance with the capacity to affect your happiness. Here are some ways to optimize your circumstances:

11. Find a Job You Love: If you want to be happy at the top of Maslow’s pyramid, find a job you love.

12. Nurture Friends and Family Ties: A study conducted at the University of Illinois by Diener and Seligman found that happy people tend to have strong friendships and family ties. This comes as no surprise, since we are social creatures, and it’s natural for us to derive joy from the company of others. Cultivate your social skills. Make time for friends and family, especially if those relationships tend to be positive and uplifting. Host a backyard barbecue, a dinner party, or a movie night. Make a spontaneous phone call “just to chat.” In short, find ways to connect; you’ll be happier for it.

13. Join a Supportive Spiritual Group: According to a 2002 article in Time Magazine, “religious faith seems to genuinely lift the spirit, though it’s tough to tell whether it’s the God part or the community aspect that does the heavy lifting.” In reality, it’s a combination of things: the shared worldview, the support structure, the common goals and aspirations, the feeling of family and belonging, and the sense of purpose, to name a few.

14. Earn a Livable Wage: If you’re living below the poverty line by choice so you can pursue meaningful work, more power to you; otherwise, making at least a middle-class wage is a proven way to boost your happiness. Investigate your options. Strategize accordingly.

15. Save: Keep 3 to 6 months salary in an emergency fund, in case you lose your job or your car breaks down; don’t forget to put money aside for retirement. If you know your basic needs are covered, you’ll be happier, and actually having that money when you need it will do wonders for your peace of mind.

16. Live Below Your Means: Financial gurus suggest that total debt, excluding first mortgage, should not exceed 20% of take-home pay. Feel free to indulge occasionally, but mind the consequences, since living above your means is a thief of happiness, harbinger of despair, and robber of potential.

Well, there you have it: a decomposition of the 3-layer cake of happiness. If you work on polishing your presentation, your attitudes, and your circumstances, you too can build a happier future. And besides, everyone loves cake, right? :)

I remember reading somewhere that men learn to love the person that they're attracted to and that women become more and more attracted to the person that they love.

When that special comes, we say 'You're more than the shoes on your feet or the designer dress on your back. You're more than the purse you carry or the money inside. You and I are more than the stuff, more than the things in our lives. Somewhere between our things and our stuff is us. I don't want to lose us'

You know, the ancient Egyptians had a beautiful belief about death.  When their souls got to the entrance to heaven, the guards asked two questions.  Their answers determined whether they were able to enter or not.  ‘Have you found joy in your life?’  'Has your life brought joy to others?

I think, staying happy is the key ain’t it? :) Life is short, live it to the brim!